Can Anger Really be Managed?
Where Anger Comes From, Where it Goes, How to Keep it There. Anger Management is reachable without drugs. Group counseling, online counseling, self-help, and therapy for anger is available.



Anger issues can be resolved without medication. With the right kind of psychotherapy (counseling) anger management can easily be obtained by anyone.  Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is the most effective for anger.

1. An understanding of where anger comes from is the place to start.

2. Next is the willingness of the subject to change his or her thinking.  This is not a difficult process, although it does require practice. It begins with listening to your self-talk.

Anger management classes may be beneficial to those with anger issues. One-on-one counseling may often help. 

3. There are steps you can take now to manage your anger.  Keep in mind it takes patience and practice--there is NO magical cure for anger.

Anger is not a brain chemistry problem, nor is it physiological in origin.  Genetics have little to do with anger managment, even those with a parent who has anger and rage issues can learn to manage and control their anger.

Interestingly, you hold the key to your own anger management.  When you learn to change your self- talk--your internal dialogue--about yourself, others and the world around you, you can find anger relief.  This is at the core of anger management. 

4. To successfully manage anger now AND in the future, you must first have a good understanding of how our emotions originate and how our thinking affects our emotions.

Anger management begins with listening to your self-talk, and then learning how to change it so you remain more calm.

By gaining a true understanding of healthy thinking vs. unhealthy thinking you'll be able to work yourself out of anger, or better still, keep your anger in check.

Self Help Books for Anger

The Origins of Anger and How to Manage It

Calm and Conquer Your Anger

How to Control Your Holiday Anger & Stress

The Basics of Anger Management

7 Tips to Overcome Holiday Stress

What to Do When Someone Else Becomes Angry or Enraged

Causes of Anger/Dealing With an Enraged Person

The Psychology of Anger:  In basic terms, anger occurs when you don't get
what you want
and exercise minimal patience with the frustration that then happens.  
You tend to blame others, when actually it's what's happening in your own head that 
creates the anger.

When you don't know what steps to take instead, then you'll get angry, and angrier.  

These are the steps that lead to anger.

1. I want something; then I get frustrated because you won't give me what I want.

2. That's uncomfortable -- and I can't stand to be uncomfortable. 
3. I've changed my mind; I don't just want something -- now I DEMAND that I 
get whatever I want.

4. You are bad and worthless because you are frustrating or depriving me.

5. To make you give me what I want, I'm going to be very severe with you.

Top 10 Reasons to Give Up Your Disturbed Anger

10. Anger often leads to self-destructive behaviors that hurt you and others.  
These reactions include drinking, drug use, insulting others, yelling, breaking things, 
and hitting people.

9. People often feel guilty and depressed about the things they do when 
they are angry.

8. Anger leads to rumination and to a narrow focus that blocks problem-solving.

7. Anger feels bad and the tension uses up your energy and leaves you
 tired after it ends.

6. Hate is a relationship. Anger connects you with people you dislike.

5. Anger is related to the development of heart disease.

4. Anger destroys relationships.

3. Anger prevents assertiveness that helps you resolve conflicts.

2. Anger drives people away from you.

1. Anger is NOT an aphrodisiac.

By Ray DiGiuseppe, REBT Resource Book for Practitioners

Anger is created from within, not by others or the world around us.  Many people dispute this and hold to their statements: "she made me mad," "it makes me so mad..."  But these statements are scientifically false: "it" has no ability to make you mad, nor does she.

Your reactions to "it" and she are the origins of your anger


Self-Help Books

There are numerous self-help and anger management books on the market.  It's difficult to know which is best and which will work fo.  At, we've narrowed the list to a chosen few we highly recommend to help with anger, anger managment, rage, self-control, and impatience/low frustration tolerance.  Go here to see our recommended anger management self-help books.

More Anger Resourses:

Wikipedia anger 

Anger management wikipedia

Controlling your anger before it controls you. 

Learn more below about Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) and how it helps with Anger Managment.

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Understanding Irrational Thinking The 12 Irrational Beliefs of REBT
The ABCs of REBT What are Rational Beliefs?
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