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Conquering Stress

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Stress. Depression. Anxiety. They’re powerful words that
conjure up all kinds of images and prejudices in our minds.
People who suffer from these illnesses find it hard to cope
with life. They can feel deeply unhappy, they can find no
joy in anything life has to offer, and of course, their
levels of self-esteem, confidence and self-respect plummet.

But how can this happen to someone?

Let’s concentrate on how these illnesses affect the way we
value the self. Of all of the destructive patterns of
behavior these illnesses cause, the way a sufferer talks to
the self is the fuel that maintains their illness.

I have experienced depression from two sides. For 5 years, a

series of traumatic events triggered a personal nightmare I
believed would never end. One of these events came when my
lover was diagnosed with depression. At this time, I too had
entered into the spiral of anxiety-induced depression. Both
of these experiences have given me an insight into how
sufferers destroy any value of the self.

Let me give a couple of examples. With my partner, if I’d
arranged an evening out with friends, she’d say:

"No, I won’t come, you go without me. I never have anything
interesting to say. I just bore people. They’ll find me an
effort to be with. I’ll stay here."

If I made a mistake, I’d say to myself:
"I’m useless. I’m no good at anything. Everything I do I get
wrong."

This self-deprecation then spreads into other areas of life.
You begin to criticize the way you look, the decisions you
make or don’t make, and you focus solely on the downside of
life. Each time a little bit of self-worth, a little bit of
self-respect and a little bit of self-confidence are eroded.
Eventually, they are lost completely. When I reached my
lowest point, having lost everything and everyone I loved,
I’d say to myself:

"If I died tomorrow, no one would know and no one would
care."

So, what helped me to come out of the fog?

Well, the reason I thought I’d become depressed was because
of a series of traumatic events occurring at the same time.
I was wrong. The root cause of my depression lay in the ways
I reacted to them. One of the ways I’d reacted was to blame
myself for events I couldn’t control. The more I blamed
myself, the more I beat myself up. The more I beat myself
up, the more my self-esteem decreased.

The phrases I have used to briefly illustrate self-
deprecating phrases we continually use against the self are
mild. I’m sure you realize that many people use much
stronger phrases than I’ve given here. The point is that
these phrases would be totally unacceptable to say to
others. You wouldn’t tell a person that they were boring, an
effort to be with and that everyone found their company dull
and it would be better for everyone else if they kept away
from people.

Agreed?

Yet, if I say to people:

"Pay yourself compliments. Accentuate your good in all areas
of your life. Write down your good points, your triumphs,
your achievements. Remind yourself as often as possible
about all the good you have done."

They look at me like I’m an alien and say they’d feel
stupid. Or uncomfortable. Or even embarrassed.

Yet they don’t feel any of these emotions when they talk to
themselves using emotionally charged, self-deprecating
phrases! And like rust upon metal, these phrases gradually
erode our self-esteem and our confidence.

OK, here’s the bottom-line. I’d like you to inscribe what
you are about to read into your mind over and over again
until it is permanently etched there:

It is NEVER acceptable to talk to myself in a way I know is
inappropriate and even offensive if I spoke in the same way
to others.

Time for me to sign off, but before I do, here’s a phrase I
say to myself every single day without fail. Please use it,
it is very powerful:

"If you put yourself down, down is where you will stay."

Chris Green is the author of the new acclaimed
book "Conquering Stress", the complete guide to beating
stress, depression and anxiety, quickly, naturally and
permanently.

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Learn more BELOW about Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) and how it can HELP YOU.

 


 

What type of therapy is best? What is REBT? How does it help?
What is Stress?? Psychotherapy defined
Understanding Irrational Thinking The 12 Irrational Beliefs of REBT
The ABCs of REBT What are Rational Beliefs?
ABCs Worksheet ABC Disputing Chart
Keeping Emotions in Check 10 Happiness Beliefs
Healthy Relationship Defined Help for Relationships
Self-Esteem Defined How to Accept Yourself

 

 


 

 

 

 

 

 

What is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)?

Are There Variations of CBT? What is REBT?

How Does CBT and REBT Provide Relief & Help?
Using CBT/REBT to Overcome Depression, Anxiety
The First Steps to Managing Anger
Listen to Your Self-Talk to Overcome Your Anger
How CBT/REBT Can Help For Anxiety & Panic
How to Think Differently So You Feel Better
Recommended CBT & REBT Self-Help Books

 

 

 

 

 

 

 




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